I wake and find my way into the bathroom, looking into the
mirror to discover this man before me.
The effects of my latest drug has started fading and I start wondering
where I’ll get my next fix. I know I
must use, to be a slave to its effects and how it keeps the strong pull in my
heart at bay. My drugs filling this void
inside me when I can find enough. I’m
sure I’ll get the right combination, the right dosage and something that others
will find acceptable. I think to myself;
‘I can control it this time, this time it will be different I’m sure.’ My latest drug is a safe alternative to what
I’ve used in the past, many others are using it and their happiness abounds it
seems. ‘This time will be different…I’m
sure.’
I heard the calling of my heart, felt the passion and desire to fill the void which lies deep inside me from an early age. I filled that call or passion with different things throughout my life, I’ve tried experimenting with so many and each of them seemed to fill me if just for a moment. Most people look at me as someone who has an adventuress spirit and it guess that’s true in many ways. I’ve felt the strong urges to find something or someone to fill this abyss of my soul. It’s uncontrollable to me, I can’t fight it or even struggle against it. No matter how hard I’ve tried, I cannot give up my usage.
I heard the calling of my heart, felt the passion and desire to fill the void which lies deep inside me from an early age. I filled that call or passion with different things throughout my life, I’ve tried experimenting with so many and each of them seemed to fill me if just for a moment. Most people look at me as someone who has an adventuress spirit and it guess that’s true in many ways. I’ve felt the strong urges to find something or someone to fill this abyss of my soul. It’s uncontrollable to me, I can’t fight it or even struggle against it. No matter how hard I’ve tried, I cannot give up my usage.
No matter how you look at the world there is only one kind
of person, just one. We are more alike
than different and we all feel the pull to fill our soul, a powerful desire to
find something to quench this thirst inside us.
What is this desire that continues to find a way into our lives, into
our thoughts and into even the most powerful of emotions? What are these things we use to fill this
desire? Most importantly why is it
there?
“It is the nature of desire not to be satisfied, and most
human beings live for the gratification of it.”
AristotleThe drugs we use to fill our void, our abyss are familiar to us and they go by different names such as; gods, addiction, idols and even religion, they are used like an addict might use heroin and the addiction is even stronger. The gods that we worship are in fact at times so acceptable that we don’t even notice that they are indeed being used to fill a void inside of us. We use: Exercise, eating, sex, dating or the thrill of being pursued, affairs, drugs, relationships, toys and possessions, work and the list is endless. We even use the virtues and laws of religion to fill this call inside of us, buried deep into following what we perceive to be the carefully laid out path of being a good follower. For myself, I’ve used the routines of Christianity to help satisfy the call. I’ve read God’s word, gone to church, volunteered and prayed.
There are also those that decide to ignore this call, to pretend that the abyss inside us simply doesn't exist. We lack a passion and muddle through our lives in the endless routine that brings us our false security. Our damaged and scared hearts only seem to re-enforce the idea that we should ignore this call. We may find ourselves living out small specks of another story, a much smaller story inside our own minds. Living a life of fantasy in pornography, social drama or believing we have the perfect family or life. Choosing instead of searching for that something to bridge the gap or fill our abyss, to live a life of fantasy and deception. Our fruitless attempts always end the same way, in our closely guarded and maintained deception coming down around us at some point. We blame, we curse and we are sure that if we simply believe or pray hard enough our deception will stand next time. And once again consume our lives with discipline and duty. In our closed and guarded hearts, behind the walls built firmly to keep all peering eyes out lies a spirit that has long lost its life and true love and kindness are replaced with pride, fear and indifference. It is our great fear that holds us at bay, daring not to travel beyond the boundaries of our own deception. We choose the path that is well lit and populated with familiar faces and companions such as hate, pride, anger, shame, indifference, guilt and lust. Behind our walls we entertain these companions and give no notice to the death of our passion and calls that we once heard.
We also have years of damage from various people that lead us toward ignoring or giving into addiction. For me, it started with my fathers abuse and abandonment. This lead to feelings of inadequacy and rejection that have left a path of destruction in someway through my life. I never had a positive male role model, never had that man to teach me to be a father, husband and godly man. On to words that struck deep from others, actions that wounded and failures of my own making. All are used by God's enemy, Satan, to re-enforce the idea that we should stay close to our addictions. We have the false belief that if we have control, if we can simply maintain control that life will be better.
“The Lord says: "These people come near to me with their mouth and honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me. Their worship of me is based on merely human rules they have been taught.” Isaiah 29:13
Regardless of what we choose to do in response to this call or passion, it’s clear that we can’t see it for what it truly is and instead look at it with both fear and misunderstanding. This is one road that we can choose to take. One direction for our hearts, to fill this desire with people and/or things or we can choose to try to ignore it in some way. There is a second road that we can choose to travel. A path that is much less followed and comes with fewer guide posts, no known guarantees and what we see as danger just beyond the undergrowth. If we allow ourselves to really listen to the beckoning call that resonates within us, to understand that it comes from this other road we are filled with a fear of the unknown. Few speak about this road, in church we hear about it at times, but fail to understand fully what the words refer.
TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood, |
And sorry I could not travel both
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And be one traveler, long I stood
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And looked down one as far as I could
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To where it bent in the undergrowth;
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Then took the other, as just as fair,
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And having perhaps the better claim,
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Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
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Though as for that the passing there
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Had worn them really about the same,
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And both that morning equally lay
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In leaves no step had trodden black.
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Oh, I kept the first for another day!
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Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
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I doubted if I should ever come back.
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I shall be telling this with a sigh
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Somewhere ages and ages hence:
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Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
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I took the one less traveled by,
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And that has made all the difference.
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Robert Frost
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I look back one more time at those familiar companions calling so fiercely for my return. The desire for the known calling deep in my own heart. Fear grows as I consider the unknown and traveling this road without my familiar gods. My ears sharpen and my attention is drawn away from what I've known all my life to a voice beyond. Looking down at the ground in front of me I muster what courage is left. Lifting my foot and looking beyond I step off down this road.
The call that we hear, that all of us hear, is God. From the time in the garden he has desired an intimate relationship with us. He delights in us, loves us with such a passion and desire that we can't even begin to understand. We were created in his image and made for him. He has since our creation desired a closeness with us that can only be found through this road. The abyss is our own desire to be one with God, a burning desire to be close to the Creator. We spend our lives ignoring, trying to kill or trying to fill this abyss with intimate relationships and sex, finding they bring us closest to filling this abyss. We dare not trust him as he reassure our fearful souls. Our trust and devotion remain with the known even when we understand who is calling us. At least traveling the other path we can control which companion we travel with and how we travel. Control often times comes from fear and it is this fear that keeps us from traveling the path of intimacy with God.
I have had many gods or addictions but by far my favorite drug is service. I am without a doubt addicted to helping and serving others and to the affirmation that comes with service. God calls me, I become a Christian, he urges me into an intimate relationship with him, on to taking away my addictions. I am left standing there watching my life love, my addiction, slowly slipping out of my grasp. It is only now, after listening to those closest to me that I understand. Only through prayer, reading and journaling do I finally see. The call, the addiction and the passion that rages in my soul was put there by God and it was a desire that can only be filled by God. It is a desire to be close to him and it is a desire that we all have.
Today, I stand as a shinning example of an imperfect man. With countless mistakes and failures behind me I look forward to a life that is much different than the one I've lead up till now. I see that my validation comes from my Father, I surrender my control over to Christ and I listen as closely as possible to the words of the Spirit. I've never been known for someone who takes even the best of advise and have instead chosen to fall on my face and learn the hard way. With that in mind, on a daily basis I make mistakes, I fail, I fall and I always will. It does bring a comfort that I've never known in turning to God, in following the other road. I still find myself fearing things, I still crave my past addictions at times. Yet, there's something beyond my ability to describe that gives me comfort and a feeling of safety, love and security that has never been mine.
I have had many gods or addictions but by far my favorite drug is service. I am without a doubt addicted to helping and serving others and to the affirmation that comes with service. God calls me, I become a Christian, he urges me into an intimate relationship with him, on to taking away my addictions. I am left standing there watching my life love, my addiction, slowly slipping out of my grasp. It is only now, after listening to those closest to me that I understand. Only through prayer, reading and journaling do I finally see. The call, the addiction and the passion that rages in my soul was put there by God and it was a desire that can only be filled by God. It is a desire to be close to him and it is a desire that we all have.
Today, I stand as a shinning example of an imperfect man. With countless mistakes and failures behind me I look forward to a life that is much different than the one I've lead up till now. I see that my validation comes from my Father, I surrender my control over to Christ and I listen as closely as possible to the words of the Spirit. I've never been known for someone who takes even the best of advise and have instead chosen to fall on my face and learn the hard way. With that in mind, on a daily basis I make mistakes, I fail, I fall and I always will. It does bring a comfort that I've never known in turning to God, in following the other road. I still find myself fearing things, I still crave my past addictions at times. Yet, there's something beyond my ability to describe that gives me comfort and a feeling of safety, love and security that has never been mine.
It is my prayer that these words cause you to stop what you're doing. To find a quiet place to pray and reflect. Look at your own life, search for what God really wants for you. It's easy to hide behind devotion to church, kids or marriage. It's easy to ignore the call and it's easy to believe the lessons learned from past mistakes or damage. God is love, Christ is the embodiment of that love. The love he has for us is simply beyond our understanding and he calls us to an intimate relationship, he calls our heart. Let us let go of the lessons learned from years of damage, breakups, deaths, broken trust and heartbreaks and accept something more beautiful and brilliant. Look closely at the two roads and listen closely for the call.
Love, Kindness and Compassion
Three books to read:
The Sacred Romance, Drawing closer to the Heart of God
Addictions: A Banquet in the Grave: Finding Hope in the Power of the Gospel